Hi! My name is Falguni Bhavsar and many of you know me as the voice on the other end of recorded visualizations that have graciously made it to the ends of the world. Wow...who would have thought...nevertheless, I am grateful to everyone who listened and felt inspired. Sadly, we are not here today to talk about visualizations (we will save that for another day)....we are here to talk about one of the most profound a-Ha moment I had during my rewiring journey. This is the presentation that was intended for the "Rewiring Your Wellness" retreat...and I am grateful to bring this information to you via my blog. So here we go.....
We go through life on auto-drive or auto-pilot without sometimes realizing what we are thinking, how we are feeling or how we are reacting to stuff that comes our way. As part of my journey, I did not realize the amount of negative self-talk I was entertaining on a minute by minute, hour by hour basis until I sat down to exercise my right to change, shift. It is not a secret that I used the Dynamic Neural Retraining System (DNRS) to support my recovery journey. In fact, it is the single most important part of my story. Along with DNRS, an amazing practitioner, and recommendations from mentors like Rick Hanson, Joe Dispenza, and other brain retrainers, I set out to work on the thoughts that kept me stuck in endless loops about my well-being.
So I took out a set of 3x5 note cards, and just wrote...I wrote out every thought I was thinking and everything I believed to my core. When I ran out of cards at 200...I knew I had a serious project on my hands. I needed a tool to support this rewiring. I took the 200 cards and sorted them...in categories...a pile for my husband (that one was big, lol), my kids, my parents, my in-laws, my perfectionism, my overthinking, my fears, my fortune telling, ancestral core beliefs....I can go on and on. I ended up with about 40 categories and 7 deep core beliefs I wanted to change....to shift. Awareness is key to recovery rewiring.
So I recalled what Rick Hanson has said in his book "Resilient" ... to change a thought or feeling...create a state you want through alternate thought, feeling and action. Joe Dispenza has a similar guidance. Incidentally, one of my other buddies was doing the exact same thing...so that is what I set out to do.
Needless to say....200 cards plus cards later and a lot of repetition, I found my pivot point into recovery by using neuroplasticity and this amazing ”shifting thoughts and beliefs" process. Addressing how I talked to myself, to others, and how I reacted was the key to completely shift me to the other side of the mountain. HOORAY...I did it. I hope you enjoy this as much as I did. Till next time....my friends.
PS...Next Month: we will talk about the neuroscience of our natural defense system — the limbic system — so we can better understand how to befriend it for life...this is gonna be fun, y'all! I post every 2nd Thursday of the Month. Please tune in.
Thank you for watching and listening....
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Falguni
This is really helpful,I really appreciate your sharing this technique. It can seem daunting and a bit abstract as to how to go about shifting. I think its brilliant in how it helps to create clarity and a focus around thought patterns and beliefs. Repetition is how the brain learns things and by utilizing the cards (kind of like flashcards) helps to use alternate pathways which will create new thoughts and beliefs(where the shifting happens). Thanks again!!
Exactly! All my amazing mentors saying similar stuff...slightly a diff way...
Thank you Falguni. Bringing to mind Dr. Sarno's work and the qualities he sees common in people with chronic illness as more examples of thoughts, beliefs to change: people pleasing, perfectionism, overachiever, goodist (need to help others, solve their problems), nervous worrier, anxious impulsive. And correspondingly, Internal Family Systems that Gupta addresses in his program: The Helper, The Inner Critic and Judge, The Achiever, The Perfectionist, The Pleaser, The Victim - all parts of us and when in balance serve our highest good but when out of balance due to trauma, take on extreme roles, which are trying to protect us, but not understanding they are, in the process, hurting us.
Please email me and I can share.
Thank you, Falguni, for these valuable inputs, which you provide free of charge.
Would it be possible to give more examples of the categories?